Bereavement and grief

Grief can follow after any sort of loss, but most powerfully after the death of someone we love. It can encompass a whole succession of feelings, such as numbness, agitation, guilt, anger, sadness, relief and reflectiveness and letting go.

Individuals vary in how they grieve and the time needed – from months or years.

Cultures and individuals have their own beliefs and ceremonies. However, they all share many experiences.

With the support of family, friends and colleagues and spiritual advisors, most people are able to come to terms with their loss even though this may take some time. It may be that for personal or circumstantial reasons the grieving process is supressed. This unresolved grief can lead to health and emotional problems further down the line such as strange physical symptoms and repeated episodes of depression.

 

 

Getting Help

If after time you find you are still unable to cope with your loss, there is a range of voluntary and professional help available to you, such as peer support groups, your religious or spiritual advisor, your doctor, bereavement counsellors and psychiatrists. Please see our Resources section below for information leaflets and other primarily UK-based support.

Cruse Bereavement Care is a UK charity with an informative website giving information on aspects of bereavement and grief including:

  • Supporting a bereaved person
  • Supporting yourself
  • Children & young people – offers extensive help; also Help for Schools
  • Traumatic bereavement – includes help from those bereaved through suicide, accident, violent crime, drugs & alcohol
  • Military bereavement

Cruse offers help in the UK via telephone, email, face to face support, also supporting children and young people, those at work and offering a variety of useful publications.

 

Osho on Grief

 

Angel statue-When a loved one diesWhen a Loved One Dies

Osho is asked: How to be, what to do with my feelings when my beloved dies?

 

 

Mourning and griefMourning, Sadness and Gratitude

Osho talks about the difference between grieving and sadness; and the place of gratitude when we lose someone we have loved.

 

 

Loves transcendenceLove’s transcendence

Osho explains that the root of grief lies in our not having been total in our loving

 

 

Articles on Grief

Maneesha and mother at OSHO SammasatiThe Death of a Daughter

Article by Maneesha on her evolving relationship with her mother and the realization that with her mother’s death, as a child she too will die.

 

Why would you even want to get over grief?

A short article by grief specialist, Kirsty West

Radical acceptance: A non-dual-psychology approach to grief and loss

An article by Brian Theriault

Articles on Grief and Loss

A selection of articles collated by modernloss.com

 

Resources for Bereavement and Grief

Recommended Books on Grief – Some recommended reading from the OSHO Sammasati ‘library’ with comments from Maneesha and/or Amazon reviews. Osho books are shown at the beginning.

Bereavement: key facts – translated into various languages, this is a useful summary of grief’s characteristics and when to get help

Bereavement – a more in-depth discussion of grief and where to get help

Cruse Bereavement Care – Face-to-face and group support delivered by trained bereavement-support volunteers across the UK. Also information, publications and support for children – see above.

Restoring Hope – main booklet from Cruse Bereavement Care

Bereavement – a self-help guide from the NHS

Coping with bereavement

A brief guide to the grieving process

Self-help strategies for bereaved people

Some coping strategies which may be helpful

Coping with grief and loss

A useful guide to what grief is, how it manifests and how we can deal with it

Finding professional support

Some people are able to talk to friends and family about their loss and bereavement, and many find talking to a professional counsellor or psychotherapist beneficial.

Information for bereaved family and friends

Contains a section on grief including coping with grief as a teenager; and supporting a child when someone dies.

The Compassionate Friends

UK charity supporting bereaved parents and their families after a child dies

Winston’s Wish – UK Charity for supporting bereaved children

The death of someone in the family, whether sudden or expected, changes everything. Although supporting a bereaved child can seem daunting, grief is normal – and necessary – and needs to be expressed. Here we give you some simple, straightforward and practical ways to support children and young people when someone important in their life has died.


1 Comments for Bereavement and Grief


  • Gina Palmer

    I have been through it and I must admit it still lingers now. There are memories I tend to forget; my friends told me that I must have been so depressed that time. What kept me going was my work, it kept me occupied.


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