Have you ever looked back on an interchange with someone and felt regret or a sense of inadequacy? Is there a person who always ‘presses your buttons’ or throws you off centre? Have you ever felt that you’re not even speaking the same language?
To be human is to communicate, but we are not born with that skill perfectly in place.
This 4-day process can enhance our ability to connect and even commune with others – at the most profound level possible. It addresses our everyday communication generally, and in particular, especially challenging situations such as when the other is deeply distressed, sick and/or dying.
Some of us actually avoid friends when they become critically ill – simply because we feel so awkward. We don’t know what to say or what to avoid saying and how to behave generally. This of course can be immensely painful for the one who is sick or dying. Is that what we want? To desert those we have loved at precisely the moment when they need us?
It need not be so: with some basic understandings and some skills the whole picture can be completely different – both for the dying person who we visit and for ourselves. In this workshop, In Rapport, this is the delicate and immensely rewarding terrain that we will be exploring.
Through meditative techniques we’ll start by connecting with our inner space – of calmness and centering, of a loving awareness – and then learn how to take that into being with others. The basic relating skills we’ll practise include establishing rapport, active listening, different ways of responding and the use of questions; looking at the appropriateness of touch, what body language can reveal, being with the feeling of ‘not-knowing’ and the other’s changing emotions; and throughout, remaining centred yet responsive, aware of our own inner process.
We’ll also explore how to be comfortable with silence and what can be communicated through it.
‘You can talk with someone …and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever….’ ( C. JoyBell C.)
Much of the workshop will focus on role-playing, in pairs – taking turns to ‘be’ the sick/dying person and the carer or visitor. In this way, we gradually incorporate our various new skills on an experiential level,. Discussions with each other and in the larger group will help understand and integrate the whole process.
In the 5-minute video above, workshop facilitators Maneesha & Sudheer speak about how to be with someone who is critically ill or dying and the great resource that meditation can be especially at this time.
Visiting someone who is seriously ill or who is actually on their deathbed can be daunting. How do you respond to questions such as: ‘Why me?’ or ‘Jesus will be waiting for me at the gates of heaven, won’t he?’ Do you encourage someone who seems to be ‘in denial’ to face the fact that they are dying?
The good news is: You don’t have to have the ‘right’ answer (or any answer at all).
Our focus is on helping you to develop a meditative presence and to be able to ‘hold the space’ … to provide a loving and supportive environment in which the other feels safe and accepted as they are; in which they can bring any issue into the light of awareness and connect with their own inner wisdom.
This workshop is suitable for anyone wanting to have a meditative presence as the basis of their relating. It also provides a rare opportunity to safely explore some of the issues touched upon in our free guide ‘A Guide to Visiting the Dying’.
Join Maneesha and Sudheer at ‘In Rapport’ if you would like to:
- Learn how to relate with someone at the most profound level
- Be truly there for a loved one who is seriously ill or dying
- Learn to remain centred and supportive at times when your own and your loved one’s thoughts, emotions and physical state may be unpredictable and uncomfortable
- Be comfortable with silence and the space of ‘not knowing’
- Learn basic relating and communication skills for all circumstances (including coma
- Learn how the basics of hypnosis and self-hypnosis can be used to bring relaxation to the seriously ill or dying
Please contact Maneesha on [email protected] if you are interested in joining the workshop or have any questions.
Maneesha James read bio here
Maneesha has been facilitating workshops and retreats focused on conscious living and conscious dying for the last 20 years. Drawing her inspiration from the many years she spent in the company of the Indian mystic Osho, she creates a safe space for exploring conscious dying using a wide range of meditative techniques and simple structures.
Maneesha has also worked with a number of individuals who were facing death and provided the psycho-spiritual support to help them through the transition of death – she sometimes calls herself a ‘transition midwife’. She is co-founder and co-director of OSHO Sammasati and is a published author. Originally from Australia, Maneesha now has a base in north London.
Sudheer P. Niet read bio here
Sudheer is an experienced meditator and teacher of meditation. Over the past 35 years, he has used many different meditation techniques and has helped hundreds of people to get the knack of meditation. He has been on the journey of meditation with the Indian mystic, Osho, the Buddha of our times, who developed a science of transformation for the modern man.
Sudheer received training in self-hypnosis from Dr. Brian Alman, a student of Milton Erickson, M.D., the father of modern hypnosis. He trained in NLP and Hypnosis in Pune, India with Prabodhi and Premananda, as well as with H. Hoenderdos, a student of Richard Bandler, one of the developers of NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
Sudheer facilitates a range of meditation groups in the Osho Meditation Resort, India and around the world.
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Recent workshop feedback
Learning these skills was very beautiful for me – maybe it was more of an unlearning, or awareness of how we normally relate & how to be more in an allowing and non-interfering space. Playing the different roles of the dying person, perhaps in pain, angry or depressed, the support person or the observer, felt a surprisingly real & very useful exercise.
I feel that in my experiences since, including in such situations, I have much more awareness of the effect of every word I say, every move I make and I am very grateful.(Yatro, UK, Administrator, Carer, Complementary Health Practitioner)
Some of the big, challenging topics – such as accompanying a dying person – are not that difficult to me now. I gained many small but practical and effective methods to support the other.
During the workshop I also let go of more of my judgments about dying. It is now a more natural thing to me and being with a dying person has become easier for me now.
I found that when there is respect, rapport, stillness and unconditional love from the support person for a dying person, death can be the peak of life… even an orgasmic experience, as all senses can be met in a tender way. If I were to die with such support, I feel I could listen to the echo of this final showering and depart in peace from the earthly temple of my soul.
From the In Rapport workshop and the past support I experienced in other OSHO Sammasati workshops, I am learning more and more to stay aware and to use my intuition in order to be in tune with the needs of the ill or dying person, so they feel loved and met in their dignity.
I liked all the methods and exercises. The way you, the facilitators, conducted the workshop, your gentle and sincere approach, affected me strongly. I think what you are making available through the OSHO Sammasati workshops will become a great science to help people die consciously.(Somraj, Pathologist, India)
What I learned the most is how to be with a dying person in a deeply relaxed, silent and compassionate way. I really feel it would be an honoured and precious experience to be with a dying person.(Prem Marga, China)