What makes for a mature person? Osho shares his unique view on the subject.
The qualities of a mature person are very strange. First, he is not a person. He is no more a self. He has a presence, but he is not a person.
Secondly, he is more like a child – simple and innocent.
That’s why I said the qualities of a mature person are very strange, because maturity gives the sense as if one has experienced, as if one is aged, old.
Physically he may be old, but spiritually he is an innocent child. His maturity is not just experience gained through life. Then he will not be a child, and then he will not be a presence; he will be an experienced person – knowledgeable but not mature.
Maturity has nothing to do with your life experiences.
It has something to do with your inward journey, experiences of the inner.
The deeper he goes into himself, the more mature he is. When he has reached the very centre of his being, he is perfectly mature. But at that moment the person disappears, only presence remains… The self disappears, only silence remains. Knowledge disappears, only innocence remains.
To me, maturity is another name for realization:
you have come to the fulfillment of your potential;
it has become actual.
The seed has come on a long journey
and has blossomed.
Maturity has a fragrance. It gives a tremendous beauty to the individual. It gives intelligence, the sharpest possible intelligence. It makes him nothing but love. His action is love, his inaction is love; his life is love, his death is love. He is just a flower of love.
The West has definitions of maturity that are very childish. The West means by maturity that you are no longer innocent, that you have ripened through life experiences, that you cannot be cheated easily, that you cannot be exploited, that you have within you something like a solid rock – a protection, a security.
This definition is very ordinary, very worldly. Yes, in the world you will find mature people of this type. But the way I see maturity is totally different, diametrically opposite to this definition. The maturity will not make you a rock; it will make you so vulnerable, so soft, so simple.
Maturity to me is a spiritual phenomenon.
(Osho: Beyond Psychology)